Quick Questions ?


Have you ever felt jealous of a friend?
Okay lemme be a lil more specific, you have two friends… say A and B; have u ever felt jealous of B coz A was giving more attention / time / thought / importance to B rather than to you?
What exactly do you call this…when you can’t even voice it to either of your friends and you can’t help feeling silly about yourself?
Is it really jealousy… or something else?
More importantly how do you stop feeling like this?

Comments

maverick said…
@vands...well to b honest i do get tht feeling sumtimes here too..i believe its not that A n B do it intentionally but its situational..so in tht case..do something else...dto divert urself of it...thats wat i do.. :)
December 19, 2007 at 1:49 AM
Occasional Brilliance said…
i agree wid maverick... its probably jst situational n nt somethin tat is intended 2 mk - ummm - "sm1" feel left out or jealous...

if it relly ds bother "sm1" so much... y dsnt "sm1" try talking 2 A or B or both 2gethr... itni to dosti hai na teeno ke beech?
December 19, 2007 at 9:02 AM
The Furobiker said…
ye jealousy nahi .. pyar hai .. pyar hai .. pyar hai .. ( ekta kapoor style camera moving :D )
December 19, 2007 at 11:38 AM
Lena said…
i guess it happens to everyone of us. It is not just that A loves B more than you, it is just that B is in more need of A then you are. Dedicating time to each other is important, but you should also be able to feel what isnt said. If you know that your friends love you and care about you, why to worry about time you spend together. You will catch up :) Life is long....
December 19, 2007 at 2:24 PM
Lukkydivs said…
Hmm jealousy is all around...dont worry vands..me feels jealous about relations almost all the time :P

u know what all of my close frends have been placed in the same company..only im into a different one :( and i cant tell u how jealous i feel about it...bcoz they wud get closer..though they assure me that nothing's gonna change :P
December 19, 2007 at 5:27 PM
The 'Mad' Orchid said…
Hmmm...
On one side I agree with Maverick n mann but seeing this happen personally i feel that sometimes u just cant avoid certain circumstances...bt it wont be termed as jealously itz just a matter of talking out once itz sorted out then u can say who stands where & what exactly it is...& hw situatns cn b bought under control..bt itz not really jealously...
Did i make sense??dunno knw im nt too gud 'mood' so :P
December 19, 2007 at 7:30 PM
Zahid said…
vandz....want to tell something here.... There was this friend of mine who was also my room mate for an year....and we were such great frenz until a girl came into his life and he fell in love *sigh*.... and gone we dont see each other oncce a week too....
In the beginning I hated this so much thta i would sulk at their pair but now....its gotta okay,..adjusted....its one year since i loosed him !!!!
December 20, 2007 at 8:21 AM
black coffee said…
hey vands!
comment karne me i am a bit late!
i think i agree with mads..
its not jealousy really!
its more situational..
i hope the feeling passed by now cos it sure is not a good one(experience talkin!)
love,
akila
December 21, 2007 at 12:50 AM
IncorrigibleV said…
@maverick
hmm i think ure right, i'll try and not break my head over it...
thanks

@bubbles
yaar talkin to A n B is kinda outta question... but ya i dont think its intentional either...im cool

@abhishek khanna
LOL
nahi bhaee aisa kuch nahi hai
December 22, 2007 at 11:34 PM
IncorrigibleV said…
@bonnie
hmm!
i know what u said though...

@lena
umm its not love sweets, but i liked that u pointed out that we shd be able to feel what isnt said...
true my friends really do love me and care abt me...
made me feel better thanks:)

@divya
hehe :P
i hope nuthin does change for u... but then read what lena wrote...as long as ure sure they love u...life's good! :)
thanks a lot
December 22, 2007 at 11:35 PM
IncorrigibleV said…
@cheri
yaar no talkin out can be done in this case, its sillier than that...
but chalo atleast its been established that its not jealousy!
phew :P

@zahid
awww im sorry u lost ur frnd but cmon u didnt really lose him yaar...he fell in love, i mean thats beautiful :)
i know the time thingy is buggin but good u hung in there...
thanks for sharing!

@akila
hey sweets :)
no worries abt being late....i'm later than all of u :P
hmm and im better now...dunno if it totally passed but it will
isliye hi post kiya tha, i know there are loadsa experienced ppl here in blogsville :D
December 22, 2007 at 11:40 PM
Pri said…
well its just 'insecurity' i would say...u know tht lil attention defict u tend to experience when u feel the division of attention of someone really close...
sont worry..u dont need to stop it...itll go away on its own..:)

take care !
December 25, 2007 at 9:47 AM
Pri said…
and heyy merry christmas!!:)
December 25, 2007 at 9:47 AM
Sameera Ansari said…
That is human nature and cannot be avoided but if the friendship is mature to withstand all this,it surely can encompass such small thorns within its huge posy of blossoms.

Nice blog you have here :)
December 26, 2007 at 6:11 PM
IncorrigibleV said…
@pri
okay i believe you... im not doin anything anyways
oh ya hope u had a great christmas and have a wonderful new yr...
thanks for droppin by pri :)

@sameera
oh the friendship is mature alright, its not quavering or anything...its just that i get a lil crazy sometimes. :P
thanks for visiting, am glad u liked my space... will visit urs too :)
December 26, 2007 at 6:14 PM
durjoy datta said…
you cant help it!!!!!!
you just have to live with it!
or better still....
find D....!
December 26, 2007 at 9:12 PM
IncorrigibleV said…
@durjoy
thanks for the suggestion... but i guess i'll stick with A and B :P
December 26, 2007 at 9:22 PM
Solitaire said…
Yes, it is natural to get that feeling. Sometimes the culprit is low self-esteem while sometimes it is sheer boredom.
December 28, 2007 at 2:08 AM
IncorrigibleV said…
@solitaire
im not sure if i can point out the culprit to be either but thanks for the insight anyways ...:)
December 28, 2007 at 2:57 AM
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